I always thought marriage was for other people. I lived blissfully through my teenage years thinking: it would never happen to me. Unfortunately, I had failed to include an important parameter in the grand scheme of things. LOVE. Even rational minds have found it hard to resist the charms of love. And when it strikes, I think it deliberately numbs the rational centres of your brain. Those of you who’ve been struck by it — will know what I mean.
The slow intoxication of the love drug will follow soon. You ditch your old monochrome ways for a promise of a life in technicolour. You start dreaming of choreographed dance sequences — with your eyes open. You realise the hidden meaning (if there’s one to be found) in those soppy love songs. And even the world seems like the perfect place to live in. That’s when you’ve reached a point of no return.
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
Every marriage starts differently and looks uncannily similar after a few years. Obviously, the love drug comes with an expiry date and it’s hard to know when’s yours.
“Happiness [is] only real when shared”
― Jon Krakauer
Now, there are ways to escape the monotony. If you’re able to convince your significant other to become your travel partner (and still stay married somehow) — you’ve won half the battle. But what if you have a long holiday coming up and nowhere to go? Being cooped together isn’t a good idea — when everyone else is travelling to an exciting travel location.
Last October, we had to survive a 10-day staycation during Chuseok (Korean Thanksgiving Holidays). Fortunately, we live in Seoul and there’s still so much that we haven’t explored. Subways and intercity buses connect the city to hidden gems and historic places — eliminating the need to stay back. Not only did we survive our first staycation, we also repeated the same mantra over the next few weekends.
“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”
― Paulo Coelho
Tomorrow is an important day for some. But if you’re like us, spending your time in a place you call home — don’t be disappointed. Let me play tour guide and take you through the steps of surviving a staycation wherever you are.
1. Test your balance on a mountain ridge.
2. Do what it takes to take that photo!
3. Find art in the ordinary.
4. Play local weatherman.
5. Watch the seasons turn.
6. Leave a message to be found.
7. Visit a local museum.
8. Face your childhood fears.
9. Discover a snippet of history.
10. Watch another sunset